The very first symptom of fibromyalgia I had that led me to the doctor was hair loss. I was shedding massively, in the shower drain, on the bathroom counter, on my clothes, in my food, hair spiders all over my house. My doctor said it must have been stress because all my tests came back normal. I was sure it was related to my thyroid, but after insisting on the more specific thyroid tests at an endocrinologist, my results were once again, “normal”.
So I gave up trying to find a reason. The hairs fell out at the root and always grew back, so it was more disturbing than a tragedy for me at 30. I did try just about everything, peppermint shampoo, selenium, biotin, indian hair powders, oils for hair regrowth and other natural products, but nothing worked. All of it made my hair lush and shiny, but did not stop the shedding. Now of course I know it is from the FM and I accept it as just another symptom that I have little control over.
On a healthy day, I shed a bit more than most people, but on a flare day/week/month the shedding is drastic. As my FM progressed, so did the hair loss. I wasn’t necessarily losing more, but the breaks in between the loss were shorter, so the hair had less time to grow back in, before its neighbor fell out. It began to look like my hairline was receding. A few weeks after a major flare, the hairline and crown are covered in short baby hairs growing back in. But the hairline never fully comes back, I’d say I’ve lost about a quarter-inch.
I was also a slave to the ponytail/high bun hairstyle because for some reason I was holding on to an idea of beauty and long locks, but only had the energy to actually style my long hair maybe once a month. The pony tail elastic pulled the hair and it took me years to realize how much damage it was causing.
In the fall of 2015, I cut about six inches off my hair and threw away all the ponytail holders. I had a shoulder length bob/lob type cut that was all one length and drab, but was wash and go. Over the summer, the heat got to me and I chopped off another four inches and I fell in love with the asymmetrical chin length bob. It takes very little product or fuss and minimal time to style.
By cutting the length and not using elastics, I hoped that my hairline might return, but it didn’t. My klingon forehead was here to stay. Ha! I realize it is not that bad, but it was something that bothered me. I have been cropping my forehead out of photos for years. But as I grew more confident/able to style my now short hair, I became a little obsessed with my forehead. So last weekend, on a whim, I decided it was time to take the plunge and get bangs.
I haven’t had bangs for about 25 years! So now I am in the process of hating them, obsessing over them, training them and hoping they grow super fast. It feels and looks so strange to me, I want to like them, but I am just not sold on them yet. The picture has a filter on it (it was gloomy out) so it looks like I colored it too, but I didn’t…not yet!
Do you struggle with hair loss? Any tips and/or tricks to share?
Have you ever had bang regret?! 😛